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Friday, 17 May 2013

A Simple Bong Wedding !

Bengali Bride And Groom
Picture Source : Google Image


"May all the divine powers together with the waters join our two hearts into one. May the messenger, the creator, holy obedience unite us." - Rig Veda x, 85, 47

I am starting a new blog post series called “A Simple Bong ( aka Bengali) Wedding” from today.  I would write about customs and traditions of Bengali marriage. All of you already know that I am getting married on 1 August 2013  so, I am learning about all the rituals from my mother and other married people. Most of the rituals are interesting as well as fun and some of them are really weird. 

Bengali weddings are not just one-day affair. It takes minimum 3 days to solemnize a Bengali marriage. 

In this first post, I am writing about “Invitation Cards”. We received our invitation cards to invite our guests / relatives yesterday. Before giving this card to anyone, we now need to dip turmeric and vermilion into mustard oil or any other oil and then we have to paste them separately in the top left corner of the invitation card.  Like in the picture below:



I did not know why we do this so, I asked my mom and she said, “In Hindu religion turmeric is a sign of purity. Moreover,Hindu Marriage and vermilion is inseparable as Indian married women mark their forehead with vermilion aka sindoor." Every married Indian women put vermilion on their forehead after taking bath everyday and pray for the long life of their husband. Vermilion is also kind of informing society that this woman is taken.    

After putting vermilion and turmeric dots on card we then offer first invitation card to all our Hindu Gods and request them to come and bless the bride and groom. Then the parents of the Bride and Groom visit the houses of their relatives , friends and acquaintances to Invite them for the D- Day personally with the invitation card.  


My Wedding Card

Details of Bride , Groom And Their Parents
Turmeric and Vermilion at the top left corner  on the Envelop

Just like my wedding I would keep this post short and simple. I would come back soon with another interesting post on Bengali marriage rituals. 

Read more about "Bengalis" (Here). 



22 comments:

  1. I should firstly qualify that I'm not a `wedding person', but after several months in Mumbai - & seeing a number of weddings - I was quite struck by the extravagance of the events, & by inference the expenditure of same.

    Not sure if any of these were `Bengali' weddings,but they were certainly not `short & simple'.

    I wish you & your future husband all the very best.
    Cheers, ic

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    1. haha I can only promise you short posts in my blog not a short Bengali marriage :-D

      Thanks for your good wishes ! :)

      Love,
      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  2. Your wedding card looks so beautiful!
    And I am glad you can share this knowledge with us about the wedding preparations...I had no idea about the turmeric method and now I am glad I know why yay! :D

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    1. Thank you , Nikki! Even I didnt know about turmeric and vermilion. So happy to see you back ! :)

      Love,
      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  3. So lovely and informative post , your wedding card is just fab :)

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    1. Thank you so much , Madam Aunty ! :)

      Love,
      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  4. I see quite a lot of Bengali weddings in my area and it always amazes me just how long the whole wedding lasts, how much they must cost and the amount of people that attend. The whole street comes alive as they put up a canape of lights around their front doors and everyone looks so beautiful.
    I also received an invitation to a wedding, and it was the most beautiful invitation I had ever seen. It was made abroad and even had a wonderful perfume smell. I've kept that invite as it's just to good to throw away.

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    1. Yeah true thats how Bengali weddings are and their invitation card sounds fab ! Thanks for reading my post :)

      Love,
      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  5. If you're going to get married, sounds like the right way to do it. With lots of joy, conviviality and pomp and circumstance.

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    1. Thank you so much for your support :)

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      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  6. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I love learning about different cultures, and can't wait to read about your wedding plans.

    I also nominated you for a Liebster Award
    http://imnotlookingback.blogspot.com/2013/05/liebster-award.html

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    1. thank you so much Jenny for the award and for reading my post :)

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      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  7. New follower here.I look forward to your future posts and I Hope i can see you back at either one of my blogs.

    Libertad

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    1. Thanks for stopping by !

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      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  8. I love Indian weddings, I have quite a few Indian friends so I was lucky enough to see a couple close up :)

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    1. Ahhh! Please come and join us too :) Thanks for reading my post :)

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      Shainee
      apieceofshe.blogspot.com

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  9. Lovely! Congrats for the up coming wedding and have fun with all the rituals.

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    Indian marriages are known for their many rituals. In fact, the beauty of Indian weddings comes forth in the numerous traditions that are associated with the special celebration. Marriages being the most important day in one's life, mehndi has become an ornament for the soon to be brides. Infact one whole ceremony dedicated to its celebration popularly known as "Mehndi Ki Raat".Indian marriages are incomplete without dance, music and lots of laughter.

    It is a common belief that the darker the color the mehndi leaves on the hands on a bride, the more will she be loved by her husband and mother-in-law. However, the significance of applying mehndi during weddings is not restricted just to sentiments and beliefs. Although these beliefs make the application of mehndi a much anticipated and charming tradition, the actual reason is of much deeper significance.

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  11. Nice post to start with, we look forward to have some more :-)

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