Our Happy Beginning !

Continued from : How I met my prince charming (Part1) And
                          How I met my prince charming (Part II)

As soon as I entered the room, my family members started raining questions on me. when I did not reply anything, as I was mentally tired, dad applied another trick to get his answers.

“We were discussing the venue for your marriage with this guy (the sunshine man)”, said dad.

“WHAT? VENUE ? what are you talking about ?”, I said with a puzzled  expression on my face.

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“Then why you gave so much time to him”, Dad asked me confused. Smile from my father’s face evaporated as soon as I told them I am not going to chat with him second time. My father didn’t give up though, after all he is an ex army man. He said,” at least, tell us the reason”. I could not tell him the reason so to stop him from asking questions I replied rudely,”I am not going to tell you the reason. This is a closed chapter and I don’t want to hear anything more about it.”

After that, I started talking to others in the room but from the corner of my eye, I was observing my dear father who looked worried and lost in deep thoughts. I felt bad for my rudeness but sometimes rudeness is the only weapon left with you to deal with the tricky situations like this one. My father might had been wondering that if I reject the person I had shortlisted myself after going through thousands of candidates, then how will I ever zero in one person.

At night when everyone had fallen asleep, I was replaying the whole conversation on my mind with Mr. Right. Although, I knew there was no next step with him but as I said in my previous post, he was the first with whom I had talked about spending my life together. We always remember our “first” experience. It doesn’t matter if the first experiences we earned were good or bad or netural.

I told him about my drinking habits and like you already know (as i said in my previous posts) that he is a non – drinker, Suddenly fear gripped my mind.  In India, parents call each other’s family to tell them their final decision regarding matrimony. Sometimes they call to say,”No” and the reason behind it. Which is a good thing actually. It hurts but it is better than leaving someone hanging. Therefore, I was scared about what if he tells his parents about my habits, as I did not tell him not to tell anyone. I thought they might call my parents to inform that they are not proceeding because of my drinking habits.

Next day I was jumping at the sound of every phone calls  in our house out of fear. Every call made me think that this could be the last call of my life. Finally, the day ended and we did not get any calls from his family. I thanked this man thousand times for saving an innocent unloved life.

When the call did not come and I was out of danger, I forgot about him and went on with my life. He too did not try to contact me, which clearly meant that he too was not interested in me. I remained invisible whenever I came online in gtalk to hide from him. Although I never saw him online during those days. Awkwardness was the reason behind hiding from him as he was a complete stranger and we had spoken about spending life together.

One night I still remember I was reading an ebook version of life of Pi. Somehow, I was not able to concentrate on book. So I decided to login to gtalk. I find it strange now that I had chosen gtalk to avoid my boredom because I am not into online chatting. He was online. I felt an urge suddenly to talk to him. I was not sure if I should ping him or not. Time was around 1 am. Being a girl starting communication with a man first is a big blow to her ego. I gave up soon keeping asides my ego and other troubling thoughts, I pinged him first. I thought he might think that I would pressurize him for marriage but he did not show any such attitude.

Soon we became very good friends. Both of us knew that we do not fit as life partners, which made our friendship stronger. Since then I used to come online everyday at 11pm for him and we used to chat for hours. I always used to ping him first keeping aside my girl ego. It became an unspoken ritual/pact between us. Chatting went on for three months. Trust me there was not even a small hint of romance in our conversation in those days.

I found him down to earth, humble. The qualities, which touched my heart most are he never flirted with me and he never tried to act over smart or he never did any kind of show off which most of the men do in front of any girl to impress her. I loved “take it or leave it” attitude” in him. He did not hide anything from me. He told me everything. Every good and bad thing about him. I had no other way to find out anything about him. He told me everything himself.

We used to share so much but we never felt love for each other. Although, I did not contact a single person for matrimony after him. Strangely I was looking someone like him after knowing him but never thought about him. He even gave me tips on how to date guys for matrimony .

During those three months, he was posted in Edinburgh, Scotland. He had no plans to visit India soon. Due to some official reason, his office decided to send him back to India. He knew when he will reach India his parents would start forcing him to marry. Therefore, he was not happy about coming back. He was very happy with his life there.

We decided to meet and after dating just 2-3 times eventually, we fell in love with each other. Now we are here. We are getting married this year on August and engagement is on April. Still it seems like a dream to us. Journey was long and emotionally tiresome but I finally found my Mr. Right. I thank God for blessing me. Mr. Right has restored my faith in God and love. I had been to all the wrong places to reach the right person and now I am home with the BEST MAN.

I would write about my dating days with Mr. Right in my coming posts.  I have also requested him to write his version of story someday.

I would love to hear your story in the comment section. 

Thanks for reading my posts and supporting me through your lovely comments. Its really mean a lot to me. keep showering your love and support on me :) 

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How I met my prince charming (Part 2).

Continued from: Part 1

I read each word very carefully, like; I was trying to decode some rocket science hidden in those words. His “about me” touched my heart instantly. I felt the urge to know him and to talk to him once. I wanted to show his profile to my parents next morning as an example of my choice. This is what he wrote in his profile:

".......Hello. I am based out of Bangalore/Edinburgh due to my work. I love trekking (especially on boring weekends) rather than munching French fries in a Burger King joint! I love traveling without plans; I intend to become a Michael Palin of sort someday! I am fond of poetry (Urdu shayri) and a huge fan of Longfellow, I love listening to Jagjit Singh gazal’s, western classical music and John Denver. I try my hand in photography with an inclination towards nature (mountains) I am a propah-adda-baaj. I write blogs, and spend my leisure time exploring city-lights.Hope this gives you a very subtle idea about me. If you find this interesting, then please feel free to contact 

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Note: I prefer cosmopolitan, honest and easy going person, who can be a great friend, can appreciate a good movie and share a good laugh. I absolutely distaste people with pretension and ego! . Good day............" 

I still don’t understand what exactly was so extraordinary about his “about me” which overwhelmed me. How it was different from others, I'm still clueless. Next morning when my parents again started interrogating me, I told them I came across a boy’s profile last night and they should have a look. My dad read it aloud in front of other members. Meanwhile, they all were trying to figure out what special quality this man possesses which others don’t have. However, they couldn't find anything in his profile to object. I got green signal to contact him. I sent interest to him and few others. Yes, this is how marriage process works here. You always keep your backup ready.

I didn't hear anything from him in next few days. I thought, by now he must have got his Miss Right. I almost forgot about him, as I was busy in sending, receiving, and rejecting interests from other candidates.

Suddenly one morning (on 10 June 2012), I received a mail from him. He asked us to contact his father in India. After the completion of initial conversation round between two parents over phone, we decided to chat on Internet to know each other. His parents stay just 2-3 kms away from our house. Still, we never crossed paths before as he has left town 6 years ago to earn his livelihood .

It was Sunday. He was at his flat. I felt very nervous. Thousands of butterflies, rats and don’t know what other animals started doing circus inside my stomach and I felt the sudden urge to visit washroom to relieve myself from their burden.

It was my first conversation with anyone regarding matrimony. I didn't know what and what not to say. My brother -in- law advised me to hide my past in our first conversation. His suggestions left me more confused and disturbed. I didn't had time to take any decision as my Mr. Right was waiting for me to come online on the other side of the computer.

I shooed away my sister and brother- in- law from my room. They left reluctantly as they  felt missing out the fun of watching my nervous rotten potato like face. Thank God , he didn't asked me to come on skype that day. 

We started chatting. It was impossible to sense his mood, nervousness, or eagerness from those text chats. After few typical formal exchanges between us, I decided to tell him things, which makes me not- so- perfect bride.

Here I would like to tell you about one of my habit. I love to party with some of my closed friends. I didn't mention this in my matrimony profile as my parents are in dark about it. My father would kill me if he ever comes to know about it and kick me out from his house:-D. Alcohol consumption is regarded as sin in India especially for girls. The thought of hiding this in matrimony profile always haunted me. I wanted to tell him on the very first day of our chatting to shake off this guilty feeling from my mind. I assumed it wouldn't be big deal for a man even If I tell him the truth. This is okay for girls and boys of our age. They don’t mind to see a beer bottle in their girls hand as they themselves love their whiskey madly, deeply and crazily.

Thought of marrying each other vanished from our mind as soon as we started knowing each other. I admitted my drinking habits to him. I got to know he has never touched alcohol in his life and he hates this habit in anyone. His confession of non-alcoholic nature broke my heart into thousand pieces. I was shocked.  I presumed that he will marry a non-drinker. We realized that we are two completely different people living in two different country and time zone. Romance or anything was impossible in that situation. My parents thought I liked him as we went on chatting for more than 3-4 hours. They had almost fixed a date for our marriage while, I was chatting with him in the other room. However, during those hours we were just somehow tolerating each other with utter politeness.

Finally, we said goodbye to each other.  We thought this was the happy ending of our story. But like Mitch Albom said, “all endings are also beginnings, we just don’t know it at the time.”

To be continued …